Sunday, 18 May 2025

Happy Homemaker 2025-05-19

Goodmorning (posted this on Sunday night), switched up a bit of the categories.



Thought of the week

Jennifer Williamson

"No matter how old we are, we still need our dads, and wonder how we’ll get by without them."


Last week has been a whirlwind and couldn't post last week with all that was going on.

I was to go with Dad to his chimio on Wednesday May 7th.  We got there and his blood pressure was too high and he had some pain so they sent us to emergency room instead... we went into hospital for 8:30 and got out at 8:00 at night.  Dad was so thin and lacked so much energy.  They told us to come back next day for some exams.  

He never came back home, things went from bad to worse, he fell down 4 times while there (2 of these he hit his head) and had a mild concussion with some stitches.  Saturday they put him on comfort medication and he died Monday May 12th at 1:35 pm.  My brother was with him at the time as he slept there 2 nights.  I was with him the first 3 days and he kept going downhill.  Overt the weekend we 4 children were there and he had lots of visit too. It went soo fast!  but I know he would've wanted it that way.  Funeral parlor will be May 24, 25.

Meanwhile mom had a temporary placement the 10th and 11th (dad had said yes before his chimio), it went well when my brother left her there but when came time to go to bed she went looking for dad and was very angry ... they had to send her to emergency room at another hospital.  Finally we got her transfered on the 11th to same hospital at dad but she did not see him again as we were afraid we would not be able to get her out of the room if she saw him.  As of now she is still there waiting for an emergency placement.  She is doing well, we all take turns going to see her and some family are going too.  She asks were dad is and we tell her he is seeing clients for work and she accepts that.

Very, very rough week... 2 parents in the same week gone from the house.  Very sad

We did start on decluttering all their clothes (except for what mom will need when she gets a place in an Alzheimer facility) and also some papers (mom kept tons of things).  We will do more when I go back.

Let's join Sandra at Diary of a Stay at Home Mom . , 




The weather
Mon
Light rain
10°
7°
Tue
Cloudy
11°
7°
Wed
Cloudy
12°
7°
Thu
Cloudy
14°
7°
Fri
Cloudy
12°
7°





Looking around the house
Looking fine 

Thinking and pondering
All arrangements that have to be made before next weekend.  Dad had some prearrangements but it didn't cover anything.  still haven't found a venue for after the funeral.
Mom - a placement  
I took 3 days off for dad's chemio and then 2 more days last week for hospital Dad, mom.  Next week I am taking off all week.  I need some rest ... was rough spending 5 whole days at hospital with all the emotions and then cleaning up some at the house.  

TV this week
  • Veille sur moi (saison 1)
  • 3 filles et un chalet
  • Ma maison Rona
  • Sortez-moi d'ici (saison 3)
  • Les Traitres (saison 2)
  • Survivor (local)

Interesting blog I saw this week
Nothing


On my reading pile
La fille du bus 88 - Freya Sampson.  Just finished this weekend - liked it a nice read.


On my to-do list

Last weekend
  • Vac main floor
  • Dust main floor
  • Wash main bathroom
  • Laundry
Monday
  • 10:30 Tai-chi classes
  • Figure out what to where to funeral parlor
  • Write (or try) to write an eulogy
  • Write down how it all went down

Decluttering
  • 1 pair of earrings
  • Tons of clothes and papers at mom's (I did bring back a few things)

Upcoming this week
We will be going back to parent's house Thursday and come back on the following Monday.
Funeral parlor Saturday night and whole day Sunday


4 comments:

  1. Dear Louloudou, How sad it all is and also difficult with your mother.
    Heartfelt condolences on the passing of your father and lots of strength in the coming time.

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  2. I am so sorry to read about the loss of you dad and alongside that the emotions of finding a place for your mom. I hope you're able to get some rest amongst all the things you are needing to do, it sounds like such a hard time.

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  3. Oh my dear sweet Lucie,
    I am so very sorry for you loss. I do think it can be a blessing when they don't suffer long and I believe fully he's in heaven feeling free of all the pain and issues. And biggest hugs about your Mom too. I know that pain all too well and when through such a roller coaster with my MIL. I pray for peace for you all - especially your Mom in the time to come.
    Sending you so much love and hugs and prayers! 🙏🏻💗xoxo

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  4. I'm so so very sorry for your loss. I always believed that the reason we had services were to keep us busy in the first days following the loss, so I will be praying as you settle in that God will comfort you in your grief! And praying for you with your Mom as well, my grandmother suffers from that disease and it feels like she's not there, even though she is. Praying for peace and comfort for you. I'm so so sorry!

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